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Giving Up The Patriarchy? Just How Are You Going To Do That?

Vero Romero Toppling the Patriarchy

For lent this year I gave up two things: alcohol and the patriarchy. The wine and cocktails part is pretty standard. Even non-lent practicing folk get the concept of the mocktail. My decision to give up the patriarchy has had a different reaction.

"You did what?" I have been asked?

"Wait, how are you going to do that?" has been a common question.

"I don't think the patriarchy is going let you do that." I have been told.

It's only been two weeks, so I still have four to go. How am I going about this?

I am starting by recognizing that a male dominated system may have made some sense at some point, and perhaps even grew out of good intentions way back when. And yet the current dominance of one gender over another across our economy and within our largest institutions is not serving any of us well. So, as Marie Kondo suggests, I am releasing the male dominant system with gratitude for ways it may have served in the past, and discarding the patriarchy as it does not spark joy.

Recognizing all of the places where male dominance makes up the status quo a good first step. From our state and federal governments, to agriculture and food production, to banking and financial institutions, to the boards of directors and C-suites of our largest companies, men (and predominantly white men) are at the table, making most of the big decisions that affect all of us. Men largely make up the candidate pool of executive searches, and once hired, they advance within companies more rapidly than others, and earn more on the dollar than women for the same positions.

Because patriarchy is the water we swim in and the air we breath, it's going to take some small and large changes in consciousness and in our daily practices to move our way toward more balance. Here below, I highlight some of the steps I am taking to change this lack of balance, and move us toward parity and equality:

Vote for women! The lack of balanced representation in government hurts all of us. When you are filling out a ballot sheet (yes, do ask for paper), seek gender parity. And let's not stop at simply voting. We all need to encourage the women in our lives to step up to run for office. Emerge America, a non profit organization that recruits and trains progressive women to run for office, has found that it takes women ten times of being asked to run for office before they actually sign up. Be one of those asks!

Vote your proxies! One way we can vote out the patriarchy is with our proxy ballots, one company at a time. The business case for women in leadership has been made over and over again, and yet, it will take each one of us being active to shift the imbalance. At Nia Impact Capital, the impact investing firm I lead, we see proxy voting as both a right and a responsibility of stock owners. Each stock owner --or share holder-- is entitled to vote on management issues, and on the boards of directors for each company. With proxy season upon us, do raise your voice (and/or if you have a financial advisor, you can ask him/her/they to vote on your behalf) and vote down all proposed boards that do not have the gender parity that we need to see and experience in corporate leadership.

Invest in women! Despite the research saying women boost the bottom line and inspire others, the statistics for women led businesses getting the growth funding they need to succeed and scale continues to be abysmal. Typically in Silicon Valley and across the U.S., over 90% of venture funding is allocated to white men. Women led businesses receive 4-6% of venture backed funding, with people of color receiving less than 2%. And only 8% of partners among top 100 venture firms were female. There are many reasons we need to add more balance to who distributes and receives capital (not the least being that start ups with women in leadership tend to outperform). For alternatives to venture type investing, do check out and Crowdfund Main Street, two crowd funding sights where small investors can participate in and support women led businesses locally and across the country.

Invest with women! Despite women making up a minority of financial advisors (fewer than 30%) and an even smaller minority of fund managers (fewer than 10%), research shows that female managers tend to outperform their male counterparts. And despite the alpha associated with women, they currently control an even smaller amount of capital. You can be a part of this crucial change, shifting our economy toward female leadership by hiring women to help manage your assets.

Eat with women! Have you ever chosen a restaurant according to who the chef is? Eating is yet another great place to use your gender lens. Here is a list of female chefs in the San Francisco Bay Area, where I call home. And here is a great list of Bay Area women-owned restaurants and another list of female lead eateries. After your fabulous dinner, enjoy a movie directed or produced by a women! In Hollywood, as in most other places of power in our society, female voices are under represented. In 2017, women accounted for 16% of all directors, writers, executive producers, producers, editors, and cinematographers. Eight percent of directors were women, and women accounted for 10% of writers. #ItsTime we had a balance of stories told from a female perspective. To do that we'll need equal numbers behind the camera, literally calling the shots. Here is a great list of female film directors to get you started.

Shop with and do business with women! A key to flipping the patriarchal system is directing more capital to women and women-owned businesses. Look here for a national list of certified women-owned places to shop and do business. And do ask around to see which businesses are women-owned. Not all women have taken the time to officially certify their businesses. We at Nia are proud to be GEN (Gender Equity Now) Certified, meaning our work place practices promote gender equality, though we have not yet taken the time to become officially "Women-owned Certified." While our economy needs more women business leaders, we also need them to be successful, as women tend to direct the proceeds and earnings toward their families and their communities. Forbes statistics show that women give almost twice as much of their wealth away as men (3.5% vs. 1.8%). Which leads me to the next action I am taking during this lent season:

Donate to Women! While it's going to take us directing both consumer and investment dollars to make the largest difference, those with philanthropic capital, do join me in stepping up and donating to organizations empowering women and girls. As you can imagine, the amount of philanthropic dollars that go toward causes for women and girls is also small. According to AidData as reported by UBS, funding received by causes related to SDG 5, on gender equality, received only 2.6% of donations. To end patriarchy we will need to activate on all cylinders including our donations.

Join the Drawdown Eco Challenge! Another initiative I am looking forward to participating in is the Drawdown Eco Challenge "Equity is Good for All of Us" happening April 3rd-24th. As scientists from the Drawdown Project articulate, climate change is not gender neutral, and with women and girls making up 51% of our population, I applaud this call for commitments to raise up women, either by giving a micro loan to a female start up, funding girls education, or hosting a film screening, there are lots of small acts suggested here that, if we all participate together, will make more than a dent in bringing much needed balance to our educational and economic systems.

Being mindful about the needed change, and directing our votes and our dollars to women is what we need to dismantle the patriarchy. Join me!

Once is Lent is over, the work and community building continues: Coming up in May and June: The Nia team is working with Kitchen Table Advisors to host two different farm tours of two female owned and run farms (Bay Area women in the impact space, stay tuned!)

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